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Should We Be at War with Obesity?

A recent study by researchers at Yale’s Rudd Center for Food Policy and Obesity suggests that news outlets frequently utilize images which portray obese individuals in a stigmatizing manner–unprofessionally dressed, at unflattering angels, or eating junk food.

File this one under “Duh.”

Though unsurprising, axiomatic studies like this one serve an important purpose: They speak to our culture’s profound fear of obesity, and they remind us that we might rightly be shocked by such degrading and dehumanizing depictions.  As it is, a large number of us will fail to see the prejudice and hatred which fuel the use of these images, because we’ve come to see obese individuals as “symbols of an epidemic rather than valued members of society,” explains Rebecca Puhl, one of the study’s authors.

What if overweight individuals were photographed in a positive way like this?

Our unchecked loathing of obesity can be found lurking in ostensibly benign places, such as conversations about health, wellness, and fitness.  Yes, it sounds like we’re talking about biology—such as the number on the scale or how we fare on measures of cardiovascular fitness.  But underneath our words are fierce currents of hatred and shame, because being fat conjures up an entire debate about morality and personal responsibility; science is not easily divorced from the cultural deification of thinness.

To be fair, the rise in childhood obesity and its associated sequalae, such as diabetes, is rightly concerning.  But what we’re learning is that shame-based tactics don’t contribute to the reduction of weight, on a personal or aggregate level.  Another study by the same authors at Yale, including principle investigator Rebecca Puhl, found that individuals who internalize the stigma of being overweight are less likely to lose weight.  As she explained in a recent Hartford Courant article by William Weir, “When [people are] stigmatized by their weight, they’re more likely to engage in unhealthy eating.  Stigma is a form of stress and a common coping method is eating food.”

The take-home?  Negative portrayals of obese individuals don’t encourage people to eat healthier and to lose weight.  If anything, such images are more likely to reduce the self-esteem of obese individuals, which then creates a disincentive to engage in self-care and, in particular, healthy eating.

All this calls into question a recent initiative by the San Antonio school board to photograph the lunch trays of school children before and after they’ve eaten.  The aim, which sounds laudable enough, is to reduce obesity and to improve dietary habits.

Yet such an approach doesn’t empower children to make healthy choices when it comes to food.  Rather, it relies upon the fear of being found out—of knowing that your dietary peccadilloes will be recorded by a camera and then communicated to your parents.  As if the cafeteria weren’t challenging enough already–with its nuanced social interactions related to where and with whom you sit, and peer-to-peer evaluation of the contents of your tray, now mom and dad—and the school board!—have a surrogate set of eyes in the lunch room.  What pressure!  What shame!

It’s hard to identify a front on which we are winning the war on obesity.  And it certainly feels as though we are engaged in a war; just ask Michelle Obama, who has catapulted obesity from mere enemy of the people, to enemy of the state.

Perhaps it is because we have drawn upon military analogies and strategies that we have failed so miserably.  When we choose to attack obesity, we are really declaring war upon ourselves:  our genetics, our predilection to eat more than we physically need, our emotional hunger (which is often mistaken for physical hunger), and the very real human tendency to struggle with moderation on a variety of fronts.

And then there are the variables frequently neglected in the discussion of obesity and weight, those like ethnicity, religion, and gender.  It’s unclear how we can win a war on obesity if doing so means asking people to relinquish an essential part of their cultural, religious or regional identity—a part that involves eating foods which may be low in nutritional value but nonetheless steeped in tradition and ritual.  Any attempt to eradicate obesity must necessarily consider the very real issue of socioeconomic status and class affiliation, as well.

We might consider abandoning our military strategy—and the underlying prejudice regarding weight—in favor of the Health at Every Size (HAES) approach.  HAES democratizes the concept of health, and purports that it is available to all.  It is a philosophy based more on acceptance, and working within existing parameters, than on pushing untenable weight loss efforts (which usually fail, anyway).  Such a shift would encourage us to develop a healthy relationship with all foods—the good and the bad—and with our bodies: one based on self-care and thoughtfulness, rather than fear of being watched, photographed, or teased.

Sadly, the war on obesity has become the war on the obese Our culture’s articulated and tacit fear of fat often drives health initiatives regarding weight loss, which likely reduces the impact of such efforts and marginalizes an increasing number of Americans.

Surely, we can do better, on metrics of equality and simple kindness, as well as health.

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Do you think the war on obesity has gone too far, in that it targets people, rather than the problem itself?  And should we be more accepting of a diversity of sizes?

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Photo by lululemon athletica via Flickr’s Creative Commons.


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Media Literacy: You Are Not a Butcher (Change Your Thoughts, Not Your Thighs!)

Welcome to my weekly series, “Change Your Thoughts, Not Your Thighs!”  Read on for tips about how to transform body image without changing your size or shape.  And check back every Friday for more ideas.  Or, better yet, subscribe by email or RSS, so that you get body-loving goodness delivered right to you!

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If you’re struggling with body image, it’s likely that you have something in common with the local butcher.  You probably see the world much like he does, by evaluating legs and thighs, breasts and backs, to determine the fat to muscle ratio and to decide which parts measure up, as well as which parts fail.  But unlike the butcher, who performs such assessment only on expired animals waiting to be cleaved, you are doing it to your own body–to your physical home.

When we consider the images surrounding us, it’s not surprising that so many of us think this way; pictures of faceless women depicted only by their parts—parts we’re supposed to covet, or parts we’re supposed to loathe–are ubiquitous.   Trim thighs, dimpled thighs, muscled stomachs, muffin tops—we see the gamut.

For some with acute body image concerns, the only answer is to severely limit media exposure–to cancel subscriptions to fashion and tabloid magazines and cut out most commercial television and cinema.  But given the scope of advertising and the fact that we can be reached nearly anywhere, this solution is somewhat short-sighted.

Just last weekend, I was confronted by a plastic surgeon’s advertisement in the restroom of a restaurant where I ate dinner.  “Feeling a little fugly?” * asked text superimposed onto predictable photos of a (headless) body, ample “before” and much reduced “after.”  I was horrified by this mean-spirited ad, which glared at me from beneath a protective plexiglass cover on the wall.  How many women had lost their appetite after seeing it, and returned to the table reeling in shame?  How many left the bathroom feeling they were no longer entitled to eat that chocolate cake they’d just ordered?

Since we cannot entirely avoid the far-reaching arm of the media, we need a way to deal with it, to defuse its messages so that they lose their power.  One way to do this is to concentrate on the market forces that underlie these images–the fact that money is the primary driver–and to acknowledge that advertising is ultimately about increasing profits through manipulation and pressure.  When we hate our bodies, we are playing right into the hands of money-grubbing industries which both fuel our negative thoughts and then profit immensely from them.  Advertising works because we forget this, or we trick ourselves into believing that we aren’t susceptible to its powerful sway.  News flash:  We are.  How else do you think that legions of people came up with the idea that thin is hot and fat is not?

Second, we need to hone our skills in media literacy so that we understand what—besides that little floral dress or tub of wrinkle cream—is really being hocked.  Typically, ads hope to convince us that we’ll be getting not just the product we purchase, but a set of accompanying intangibles: love, eternal youth, freedom from anxiety or depression, success, happiness, an elevation in social status, and the envy of our peers.  So how could you say no to that bottle of shampoo, when it comes with all that!

Beautiful friends and a boat--yours with the purchase of Tommy Hilfiger!

Another technique involves assessing our reaction to the images we encounter.  It can be incredibly liberating to look at an ad and say, “Is my skin really so awful that I need to buy that high-dollar cream, or is this slick ad working its magic on me?  Would I find those hard-earned lines around my eyes so problematic if I weren’t staring at her airbrushed, impossibly pore-less face?”

Sometimes we buy women’s magazines because it’s fun to look through them—to see clothes that are more fantastic than pragmatic, and to witness the theatrics of fashion.  Or we adore the nuggets of compelling content interspersed in the sea of ads.

If we have fairly good body image, such exposure can be harmless, particularly if we remind ourselves that the images we witness are only weakly tied to reality.  But if we find ourselves experiencing the dark and detrimental effects of advertising, then it’s time to step back and take stock of our media consumption.  Are we overdoing it?  Do we need to spend less time flipping through glossy magazines, and more time interacting with the very real—and varied—women who surround us?  Has our focus on “problem areas” distracted us from the fact that, unlike chickens, our value doesn’t derive from the size of our breasts?

Because unless you’re making sausage, there’s no need to think like a butcher.  And that blood-stained apron is so last year.

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How are you affected by the use of body parts in advertising?  And do you try to limit your exposure to the media?

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Most of you have likely seen this, but if not, here is Dove’s powerful (and quick) demonstration of what it takes to go from au naturel to camera-ready.  (With a little help from the trusty computer, of course, just to ensure that our standards are truly unrealistic.)

* In case you are over the age of 14, or otherwise totally uncool, fugly is a combination of the f-word and ugly.  Charming, I know.

Photo Credits 1. sheffieldhammer via Flickr’s Creative Commons License; 2. source.

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Self-Compassion: An Antidote to Negative Body Image (Change Your Thoughts, Not Your Thighs!)

Welcome to the third post of my weekly series, “Change Your Thoughts, Not Your Thighs!”  Read on for tips about how to transform body image without changing your size or shape.  And check back every Friday for more ideas.  Or, better yet, subscribe by email or RSS, so that you get body-loving goodness delivered right to you!

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Poor body image tends to take root in neglected soil. We are most susceptible to it when we’re in a compromised state—when we have failed (or been rendered unable) to attend to our emotional or physical needs.  Tired, cranky, lonely, angry, hungry: these are the conditions in which negative body image thrives.

Often, we have taken better care of others, over the long course of years, than we have of ourselves.  Some of us have refined both the act of tending to loved ones and the act of neglecting ourselves.  In fact, it may feel downright selfish to think of nurturing our bodies and our psyches in the way that we would a child, partner or friend.  Because doing so violates the job description we’ve conjured up in our heads—the one that drives our behavior and tells us how we’re supposed to act.

If we are accustomed to neglecting or downplaying our needs, it’s likely because we’ve told ourselves that we don’t require much care–that our purpose is to be there for others.  Alternately, we might believe that we’re not worthy of such care or cultivation.  Either way, this type of self-neglect or self-denial usually indicates that we are very good at something else—being hard on ourselves.

Wondering if this applies to you?  The easiest way to find out is by taking stock of your self-talk–listening to the voice that narrates your days and swims around your head–to determine whether it is friend or foe. Are you quick to find fault with yourself?  Do you judge, criticize and condemn yourself, even for infractions anyone else would consider benign?  Do you berate yourself for overeating, missing a workout, or failing to have the “perfect” body?

Keep a log of these critical thoughts, so that you can learn to recognize that voice.  The goal is to replace those stale, recurring thoughts with new ones—thoughts that are grounded in present-day reality, and which reflect an ethos of self-care.  For example, instead of beating yourself up for not making it to the gym, you might remind yourself that you are juggling an awful lot, and give yourself credit for accomplishing all that you do.  You won’t necessarily feel joyful as a result, but at least you won’t end up in a pit of shame.  (Because if you sink that low, it’s hard to climb your way out.  And you’re unlikely to reach your original goal of getting to the gym since you’ll be depleted from all that emotional self-flagellation.)

Clients often tell me that they don’t want to give up the self-critical voice, because they believe that it keeps them motivated and productive. Being compassionate or easy on themselves, they fear, will make them idle, fat, or unsuccessful.   And if I try to convince them otherwise, they see me as an impossibly cheesy therapist—one who couldn’t possibly understand that, underneath it all, they are truly flawed, lazy, and good-for-nothing.

But now I have research to back me up.  That’s right, there is data to support the idea that harsh self-criticism does not lead to health or wellness, and in fact, the opposite may be true.  As an article from the New York Times explains, “The research suggests that giving ourselves a break and accepting our imperfections may be the first step toward better health. People who score high on tests of self-compassion have less depression and anxiety, and tend to be happier and more optimistic. Preliminary data suggest that self-compassion can even influence how much we eat and may help some people lose weight.”

Rather than putting you at a disadvantage, then, being kind to yourself might actually help you reach your health and fitness goals.  And because self-esteem is highly correlated with body image, if you feel better about yourself (which is likely if you practice self-compassion), then you’re likely to feel better about your body, too.

Next time that critical voice starts in on one of its tirades, recognize it for what it is, and counter it with a more compassionate one. Just as building a muscle takes patience and practice, so does changing a thought pattern.  But if you can alter your response, and build that mental muscle, then you might feel stronger than ever.  Even if you don’t hit the gym.

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So what do you think?  Are you willing to give it a go, to try to disarm that self-critical voice and adopt a more compassionate one?

And check Virginia Sole-Smith’s new post at Never Say Diet. She interviews Jean Fain, author of the new book, the Self-Compassion Diet, which is all about–you guessed it–being self-compassionate!

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Mindfulness: The Practice of Being in Your Body (Change Your Thoughts, Not Your Thighs!)

Welcome to the second post of my weekly series, “Change Your Thoughts, Not Your Thighs!”  Read on for tips about how to transform body image without changing your size or shape.  And check back every Friday for more ideas.  Or, better yet, subscribe by email or RSS, so that you get body-loving goodness delivered right to you!

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This summer, you could plan to avoid the pool altogether.  You could feign a mysterious illness that spans Memorial to Labor day.  Or claim to be allergic to sunshine or the laughter of children.  And you might be spared having to deal with the whole holy-crap-that-is-not-a-swimsuit-that-is-a-piece-of-dental-floss thing.

But do you really want to live that way, sitting it out on the sidelines?  Because, if you’re like most people, the pool and the beach used to be fun.  They once represented unbridled pleasure manifest through water and waves, sun and splash.   And wouldn’t it be great to get back to that?

As it is, we often focus on how we think we look, particularly if our body image is as deflated as last year’s beach ball.  There’s a lot of swimsuit tugging (was it always this tight?) and nervous smiling going on; a lot of looking to see who is looking.  Then come the noisy internal voices, the “What the hell was I thinking coming here? I have no business being at the pool?” thoughts.

Uh huh.  I know about these thoughts.

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Could Your Body Dissatisfaction be a Red Herring? (Change Your Thoughts, Not Your Thighs!)

Welcome to the first of my weekly series, “Change Your Thoughts, Not Your Thighs!”  Read on for tips about how to transform body image without changing your size or shape.  And check back every Friday for more ideas.  Or, better yet, subscribe by email or RSS, so that you get body-loving goodness delivered right to you!

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Ever wonder why it is that you can wake up feeling good about your appearance, but by the end of the day feel certain that you weigh 400 pounds, have thighs the size of mature redwoods, or a waist the circumference of a hot air balloon?  Sometimes it doesn’t even take all day for the shift in mindset—it can seem to happen in an instant.

But there is usually a precipitating event, even if you are unaware of it.  Perhaps it was that conversation with your mother-in-law about her upcoming visit (stress!!) or that bad review you got at work (frustration and stress!!). On the other hand, maybe you feel exhausted and unappreciated, and it is this low-grade malaise that prompts self-critical thoughts about your body.

As you can see, the underlying issue or precipitating event may have nothing to do with size and shape.  But this doesn’t stop us from feeling “fat” as a result.

Why is this?  For one, we may have difficulty identifying feelings other than “fat.”  Our culture does a real number on women, by urging us to express dissatisfaction with every aspect of our appearance, while dismissing our legitimate discontent about other areas of our lives (particularly those related to motherhood or family).  Because of this mixed message (Yes, you’re entitled to feel angry at your thighs!  No, you’re not entitled to feel angry about the monotony of motherhood!), we may not be comfortable identifying and articulating our dissatisfaction.  And we may not have a lot of practice.

Or perhaps we have harbored displeasure with our bodies for so long that we see them as the root of all problems.  “Of course I’m unhappy—I weigh too much,” becomes our ongoing script, the explanation for the state of our life.  Body dissatisfaction serves as a hook onto which all of our free-floating negative emotions attach.

Though destructive, this narrative may be rooted in an attempt at self-preservation. Our psyches tend to steer us toward things we can tolerate, and away from those which are messy, overwhelming, or threatening.  But even if body-hatred is relatively tolerable or familiar, it certainly isn’t pleasant.

Next time you find yourself stewing in vitriol about some imperfect aspect of your body, pause and take stock: What else are you feeling?  Could there be more going on?

To help you get started, here are three techniques to try:

  1. Write down (without censoring yourself) all the thoughts and feelings that flood your mind. In all likelihood, you’ll find yourself staring at a litany of complaints about your body or how much you’ve eaten.  But don’t stop there.  Once you’ve penned those thoughts—we’ll call them the Designated Distractors—you’ll have space to discover any other issues that need to be acknowledged. If you find yourself at a loss (in other words, if nothing comes to you), then you might need some anchor words.  Start by writing the word relationships, and then free associate about the people in your life and how you feel about them.  You might also try this with the areas of work/career, motherhood, or self-care.
  2. Make a timeline to help you chart the days or hours that preceded your body disparagement. What were the external events that transpired?  And what was your internal, emotional experience?  This type of visual mapping can help you detect patterns and understand what’s behind your critical inner monologue, whether it’s a distinct, obvious event, an ongoing emotional state, or a series of small, cumulative frustrations that gather strength like a wave.
  3. If you don’t find that looking in the rear-view mirror is fruitful, then try the opposite approach: make a list of future events that might be impacting your body image. Could an upcoming event—a reunion with old friends, for example—be causing you angst?  It’s easy to worry about weight and appearance when reuniting with people we haven’t seen for many years, but often there are nebulous anxieties lurking underneath: Will they still like me?  Will I fit in?  Will I have anything interesting or funny to say?  Am I as successful as so-and-so? Once you’ve identified any nerve-wracking upcoming events, repeat step number 1 (write down the Designated Distractors, and then continue to write about any underlying concerns) to get a sense of what is bothering you.

As you do this work, you may not find any hidden nuggets of painful truth—sometimes poor body image is truly about how we think we look.  But there might be some ossified treasures that can help you better understand your personal story, and help you dismantle the negative body image that you’ve carried around so long.

That would certainly lighten your load, even if the scale stayed the same.

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Have you found that negative body image disguises other problems?  If so, how did you identify the real source of your discontent?

Also, do you know about the awesome project, Body Confession? Author Diana Spechler has come up with a  powerful way to record the experiences of  women around the world, and to transform body shame by PUTTING IT OUT THERE AND GETTING REAL.  Have a look, and add your confessions if you’re so inclined.

Image by ktabor330 via Flickr’s Creative Commons.

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